Lies And Miscommunication

In my late teenage years, I have come to the realization that I despise lies and miscommunication. When I was younger I used to believe lies were okay and that if they spared someone's feelings then it was okay to lie, now my views have changed. I still think white lies are fine, like when my mom asks if I'm awake in the morning and I say yes even though I'm cuddling up in my bed with my eyes closed. However, I don't like other types of lies. I absolutely hate it if people lie to try and save my feelings. I'm a big girl, I can handle the truth. I understand people are trying to be considerate but I'd rather deal with the truth then live thinking a lie is the truth. Sometimes the truth is hard to hear and sometimes it seems like a lie would be better to save someone the heartbreak but you are going to experience the heartbreak anyway so why not be honest instead of stall with a lie.

I don't know, maybe I just hate lies because I think it hides people's true thoughts and intentions. Honestly, this all probably stems from something that was said to me that I can't figure out if it was a lie or the truth. Most likely it was a lie which the person thought was the truth at the time. If it was truly the truth then I feel bad about how I responded in that situation however if it was a lie I feel furious that he would say something like that and have no meaning behind it. Maybe you're lost by what I'm saying since I'm not mentioning the situation but all I'll say is that it's something you yearn to hear and that when you do hear it, it is usually a romantic moment. However, this all happened through text message so I have no way of knowing the truth.

That brings me to my next grievance, miscommunication. Nowadays everyone seems to love texting because it's so quick and easy. I, however, hate texting. It's good for simple conversations but horrible for real in depth conversations. So many moments of miscommunication has happened through texting and I feel like if I had had those conversations in person instead of in a message things would have worked out better. I think texting creates a distance between people and it becomes almost impossible to know their true feelings or intentions. One thing I can say is never ever break up with someone through a text. Although it's a lot easier than seeing the person face to face, it's an awful way to break up. You are unable to have a real conversation about why the relationship didn't work out and how you two feel and instead, everything gets miscommunicated. All the other person is hearing is "I'm dumping you" and you end up angry, feeling like they never cared about you at all because they aren't expressing their feelings. You don't get to see them get sad or angry or disappointed, you just get emotionless texts. Seems like I'm bringing up too many old stories again. It seems to be no matter how hard I try to move on I keep coming back. Miscommunication was our fatal flaw.