1. You are not invisible. I don't know why but in high school I always thought that my teachers didn't know who I was. Now that I'm in lectures with hundreds of other students where my professors definitely don't know who I am, I've realized that you do have a personal connection to your teachers in high school. Maybe if I had realized my teachers knew who I was I would have been open to talking to them and getting help when I needed it.
2. Don't put all your focus into grades. Grades are important of course but only for getting into university and universities generally only look at grade twelve courses or prerequisites. As long as you aren't planning on going to some big school like Harvard or McGill, you'll probably get accepted if you meet the minimum grade requirement. I put all my effort into grades in high school which is kinda sad if consider my social life or the fact that I didn't even do that well. I wish I would have had more fun and not worried about grades so much, especially in grade nine and ten.
3. Get involved. Do something, anything. Don't do it to get into university though, do it to have fun. The only activities I did in high school were two years of tutoring and three months on a volunteer project (where I got overrun by the other people and ended up having nothing to do). Neither one was all that fun and it kinda made me wish I would have done something I liked. If I could go back I wouldn't have quit soccer in grade nine. I also would have joined the dance class at my school. Maybe I would have even sung at open mic night like I always wanted to or tried out for the musical. Or I could have even been brave enough to go on that trip to France in grade ten. Looking back I realize all the things I missed out on and how I should have worried less and just done what I wanted to do.
4. Relationships are not worthless. I'm probably the only one who viewed high school relationships so badly. I think back then I was deathly afraid of falling in love or something. I vowed to never have a relationship in high school because they were pointless and never lasted. I broke that vow once. Now that I'm older I've realized that if you are lucky enough to like someone and have them like you back, you shouldn't be afraid to have fun dating. To me, the relationship always had a time limit and I wish I would have just enjoyed the experience more. Also if you like someone and you aren't sure how they feel, just tell them how you feel. As long as you've at least talked to that person before it'll be fine. They'll either like you back or you'll get to move onto someone else. There's really nothing bad about it and no one will make fun of you for liking them because let's face it everyone likes to know someone likes them.
5. Accept who you are. I spent about seventeen years of my life wishing I was a different person than I was. I hated being the shy, quiet girl who liked to stay at home and was good at homework. I wanted to be the type of person who went to parties, had tons of friends, went out on crazy adventures, and had all the guys after me. That person, of course, wasn't me and it was hard for me to come to terms with who I was. Now I wish I wasn't so ashamed of myself. There's nothing wrong with who you are, embrace it and you'll probably have a much better time than if you were pretending to be someone else.
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