Friday, April 17, 2015
So Not Into That
Today as I was driving away from the grocery store I noticed a couple walking together. I know that's not weird, there are couples everywhere but I noticed that with this couple instead of the boyfriend putting his arm around his girlfriend's waist or you know holding her hand, he was grabbing her butt as they walked around. I get that some people like that kind of thing but I know if a guy ever tried to pull that with me I would probably snap off his wrist. I'm so not into that sort of thing and I think it's kinda disrespectful. I would want my boyfriend to think highly enough of me to know that isn't even an option, he can put his hand in an appropriate place or he can walk alone. You wouldn't grab a girl's boobs in public so why would it be okay to grab her butt? I really don't understand some people. It's kinda like the people who aggressively make out in public, I mean can't you wait till you get home or something? I don't know I just found it really weird that's all.
Wednesday, April 15, 2015
The Importance of the Right Job
I think there is a huge mistake adults make when talking to teenagers about working. You are warned that your first job isn't going to be that great and that work is not fun. This is sound advice. However, a lot of adults don't warn teenagers enough that not everyone is ready to work once they hit sixteen. I know I wasn't but with everyone around me getting jobs and me wanting some extra money, I thought I was. This lead to the single worst experience of my life but one I learned a lot about. Here's what I learned about working from my first job.
1.Work is hard. I knew work was hard when I first starting looking for a job but I didn't quite realize what I was getting into. I didn't work often or for long hours but the work I did wasn't easy. I spent most of the time washing dishes or lifting heavy boxes. It was boring and I didn't enjoy it at all.
2. You have to find a job that fits you. The number one thing I learned from my first job was that I was not cut out to work with food. It seems to be that most people work with food at some point in their lives but I'm just the type of person who is awful with food. It made me worry a lot that I was going to mess up and accidentally poison someone or something. I found the job very stressful and I was quite unhappy with the work I did. I wish I would have started with something that fit me better instead of the first job I was able to get.
3. Co-workers are hit or miss. Some of your co-workers will be amazing, they will be nice and friendly and understanding when you screw up. Trust me there will be a lot of screw ups so it really makes the difference when your co-workers are understanding. Most likely your boss will be the scariest person you will meet mainly because they have the power to fire you at any point. However, there is always the chance of having a co-worker that you don't get along with at all and makes you dread going to work. I'm sorry but it's likely you'll get at least one co-worker like this at some point in your life. I'm also sorry that I have no advice on how to deal with this.
4. Some things just aren't worth the money. Sure you are getting paid but there is only so much you have to put yourself through for money. Honestly, my first job experience tore me down so much that I'm only able to comfortably talk about it now, two years later. It was a job I had for two weeks and it took me two years to recover. I got a job hoping to build my confidence but I found myself in a place that made me feel very anxious. I didn't know what to do and I felt like a complete screw-up. I had some great co-workers but I had one that made me feel so awful about myself that I went home crying after work. It was a job that didn't suit me at all and I knew that but I wanted to prove to myself that I could be a good employee. Well, things didn't go great and one day at work I made mistake after mistake until finally, I made such a big mistake that I was told to go home early. I never returned after that, however it wasn't really my choice. To be honest I was happy to be fired because that meant I didn't have to subject myself to something that made me so unhappy. The moral of this story is that no matter how much you are getting paid, it's not worth it if it makes you miserable. Find something you like you do instead of suffering with something you hate.
The reason why I'm writing this now is partly a warning but also because there is finally a happy side to this story. Currently, I'm doing volunteer work dealing with retail related tasks such as sorting clothes and tagging items. It's something I really enjoy doing and I feel that I'm good at. At first, my hands were shaky and I felt unconfident but the more I do it the better I'm feeling. It's quite similar to a job in retail except I don't deal with customers and I don't get paid. I feel like this is the sort of thing I should have started with to build myself up for a real job. I really like what I do there and the people who are there are all really nice and understanding of me even though I ask a lot of questions and I'm quite shy. Having this experience has really healed me from my first job experience and the workplace is no longer something I fear. So although it isn't a job where I get paid, it's a job that I really enjoy and I think that the most important part. Of course, there are people in circumstances where you need the money no matter what but if you don't really have a need for money right now go with a volunteer job first because I think it's a great transition into a paying job. Also even if you have a bad experience don't let it haunt you for too long, not every job sucks and not every experience will be like that one.
1.Work is hard. I knew work was hard when I first starting looking for a job but I didn't quite realize what I was getting into. I didn't work often or for long hours but the work I did wasn't easy. I spent most of the time washing dishes or lifting heavy boxes. It was boring and I didn't enjoy it at all.
2. You have to find a job that fits you. The number one thing I learned from my first job was that I was not cut out to work with food. It seems to be that most people work with food at some point in their lives but I'm just the type of person who is awful with food. It made me worry a lot that I was going to mess up and accidentally poison someone or something. I found the job very stressful and I was quite unhappy with the work I did. I wish I would have started with something that fit me better instead of the first job I was able to get.
3. Co-workers are hit or miss. Some of your co-workers will be amazing, they will be nice and friendly and understanding when you screw up. Trust me there will be a lot of screw ups so it really makes the difference when your co-workers are understanding. Most likely your boss will be the scariest person you will meet mainly because they have the power to fire you at any point. However, there is always the chance of having a co-worker that you don't get along with at all and makes you dread going to work. I'm sorry but it's likely you'll get at least one co-worker like this at some point in your life. I'm also sorry that I have no advice on how to deal with this.
4. Some things just aren't worth the money. Sure you are getting paid but there is only so much you have to put yourself through for money. Honestly, my first job experience tore me down so much that I'm only able to comfortably talk about it now, two years later. It was a job I had for two weeks and it took me two years to recover. I got a job hoping to build my confidence but I found myself in a place that made me feel very anxious. I didn't know what to do and I felt like a complete screw-up. I had some great co-workers but I had one that made me feel so awful about myself that I went home crying after work. It was a job that didn't suit me at all and I knew that but I wanted to prove to myself that I could be a good employee. Well, things didn't go great and one day at work I made mistake after mistake until finally, I made such a big mistake that I was told to go home early. I never returned after that, however it wasn't really my choice. To be honest I was happy to be fired because that meant I didn't have to subject myself to something that made me so unhappy. The moral of this story is that no matter how much you are getting paid, it's not worth it if it makes you miserable. Find something you like you do instead of suffering with something you hate.
The reason why I'm writing this now is partly a warning but also because there is finally a happy side to this story. Currently, I'm doing volunteer work dealing with retail related tasks such as sorting clothes and tagging items. It's something I really enjoy doing and I feel that I'm good at. At first, my hands were shaky and I felt unconfident but the more I do it the better I'm feeling. It's quite similar to a job in retail except I don't deal with customers and I don't get paid. I feel like this is the sort of thing I should have started with to build myself up for a real job. I really like what I do there and the people who are there are all really nice and understanding of me even though I ask a lot of questions and I'm quite shy. Having this experience has really healed me from my first job experience and the workplace is no longer something I fear. So although it isn't a job where I get paid, it's a job that I really enjoy and I think that the most important part. Of course, there are people in circumstances where you need the money no matter what but if you don't really have a need for money right now go with a volunteer job first because I think it's a great transition into a paying job. Also even if you have a bad experience don't let it haunt you for too long, not every job sucks and not every experience will be like that one.
Thursday, April 9, 2015
The Future Is Becoming Real
There are about two months of school left and it is finally starting to hit me that I'm graduating. I have mixed feelings about graduation like a lot of other graduates. I'm excited for my upcoming grad events which are only a month away however at the same time I'm nervous about leaving high school which I've become so comfortable with.
It hadn't really hit me that I'm going to university in the fall until I got mailed my acceptance package today. Nowadays a lot of the university stuff is done online and I've been doing all the stuff I've needed to do but it didn't really feel real to me. Now I have this physical acceptance that I can hold in my hands that just makes everything feel real. I'm sort of terrified to be going into university especially since none of my friends are going to the same school. It's going to be hard for me at the very beginning to know absolutely no one but I'm sure it'll turn out alright.
I can't say I'll miss high school though. Graduation literally can not come soon enough. Especially since I have my beautiful grad dress hanging up in my closet which I can't wear for another month. I wanna go to prom and hang out with my friends and just have a lot of fun in these last few months. I've been working hard to become responsible and do all the things I have to do before I graduate. I honestly feel like I haven't had any fun all year. But you gotta do what you gotta do. I can put up with a year of hard work if it means I'm one step closer to my dreams.
It hadn't really hit me that I'm going to university in the fall until I got mailed my acceptance package today. Nowadays a lot of the university stuff is done online and I've been doing all the stuff I've needed to do but it didn't really feel real to me. Now I have this physical acceptance that I can hold in my hands that just makes everything feel real. I'm sort of terrified to be going into university especially since none of my friends are going to the same school. It's going to be hard for me at the very beginning to know absolutely no one but I'm sure it'll turn out alright.
I can't say I'll miss high school though. Graduation literally can not come soon enough. Especially since I have my beautiful grad dress hanging up in my closet which I can't wear for another month. I wanna go to prom and hang out with my friends and just have a lot of fun in these last few months. I've been working hard to become responsible and do all the things I have to do before I graduate. I honestly feel like I haven't had any fun all year. But you gotta do what you gotta do. I can put up with a year of hard work if it means I'm one step closer to my dreams.
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