I'm currently single and recently stopped dating someone. When I stopped seeing this person I was told beforehand that I shouldn't end it until I found a new guy. To me that was bizarre, why did I need to have someone new? Did they not realize that I just wanted to be completely single again?
When I was younger being in a relationship was more of an accomplishment than anything else. I'll admit I went into my first relationship just wanting to have a relationship. Thankfully, I did have true feelings for the guy but honestly, I would have said yes to anyone just because I wanted to experience a relationship. I quickly realized how wrong I was for thinking that way. Once that relationship ended I was stuck in a place where I both wanted a new relationship very quickly and wanted to wait until I fell in love. I ended up feeling sort of pathetic because I didn't date for a long time after that relationship. However, I also realized there was nothing wrong with waiting to date until I found someone I really liked.
When I started dating again, I realized that I was overcome by the fact that it had been so long since I last dated and I just felt like I should start again. I ended up not waiting for someone I really liked and I just started dating because I was bored. I met a nice guy but I just didn't like him the way I wanted to. Now, more than ever, I've realized it was right of me to want to wait until I found someone I really liked. Settling doesn't feel good, not for me or for the other person. I don't care if I have to wait for a year, two years, or five years; I want the next person I date to be someone I truly love.
Being single is not a bad thing. You shouldn't feel the need to go from relationship to relationship just so you won't feel alone. Wait until you find someone you truly like and connect with to date. Being single is way better than being in the wrong relationship.
